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I can't tell you how happy I am that my new friend Bix addressed me amidst much extremely important virtual signalingo!

I'm going to come back to other matters in Inquiry's post but for the moment I just need to address one part, the part all the way at the bottom, because it's probably more important than the other stuff in that what I'm pretty tired of is people trying to obscure that men are a problem.

Considering gender (assuming you still believe in that notion..) a determining factor of individual behavior is arguably the root of sexism. And I can't think of a more ridiculous over-generalization than “men are a problem”. That sort of brush stroke is paramount to throwing a bucket of paint at a wall, and is exactly the kind of thinking this species should be obscuring every possible opportunity.

I'm pretty tired of hearing/reading that only males are capable of toxicity and/or fragility. Males have hardly cornered the self-ishness market, and it seems more than a little sexist to keep insisting they have.

Literally no one talking seriously about toxic masculinity argues that only males are capable of toxicity or fragility,

What people are talking about is as irrelevant to this topic as it was when people once talked about how flat the earth was. The word 'masculine' clearly makes an emphatic appearance in the phrase. I would expect the phrase to go more like “toxic humanity” were it not to imply only males are capable of it.

and pretty much the only reason anyone ever floats this strawman (does straw float when wet?) is to deflect and misdirect our attention.

I'm looking forward to your strong backstroke carrying you through the compelling current presented by the word masculinity so no-bones-about-it in the phrase.

Just as there's no such thing as “reverse racism”, even though this or that individual person of color might be prejudiced against white people, because “racism” is endemic and systemic in both the political and social arenas, so too is “toxic masculinity” engrained and enmeshed into our society overall. The broken ways in which men are taught to view both themselves and the world around them is stunted and dangerous, and regularly explodes into the private and public lives of, well, everyone you know.

If you're not writing for The New Yorker, you should be (although you'll need to become a tad more longform).

Even if there also are problems with the ways in which our society views women or teaches women to be, there's literally no equivalent “toxic femininity”

That this is the age of seeing who can out hyperbole the most others notwithstanding, I'd highly recommend not wagering too much on phrases like “there's literally no” transportering an argument to solid empirical ground.

or whatever else it is Inquiry is trying to invoke here, and in fact many of the ways in which we break women themselves are due to the broken ways in which men live their lives.

Per the byline here, Inquiry assures you Inquiry is trying to invoke nothing but “whatever comes to mind”, here.